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I do not think that I am a devout conservative (as can be seen from various opinions that I have expressed). I am therefore not completely opposed to feminist claims (as can be seen from my writings). But this is not the place to become involved in this issue. However, I admit to total rejection of feminism when it damages family values, and in my opinion it definitely does cause harm. I will not expand on this theme, rather I will limit myself to the marginal issue of double family names.
Click here to read moreIt is clear to me that using double family names is not the ultimate goal. We can already see the first signs of married women who keep only their maiden name (is this true in the religious community too?), as if to say: "Marriage is a secondary element in my life." Or, "Whose business is it to know that I am married? This is an invasion of my privacy." And don`t think that I have invented these ideas. In preparing this article, I read several others (on the internet, of course) which preached that women should keep their maiden names, based on these and similar arguments. Sometimes this ideology is presented in literary terms: "No loss of personal identity... Equality: why shouldn't the husband change his name?"...
We will also take a brief glance in the opposite direction, at the Chareidi sector (at least among the Ashkenazim). In this community, the woman doesn`t have a name at all, even a private name, neither in Hebrew nor in Yiddish. In invitations to her child's bar mitzva or wedding she is simply mentioned as "his wife," nothing more. "How long will my honor be put to shame?" [Tehillim 4:3]. This is the cry of the psalmist of Yisrael. "How long will you disgrace me and call me Ben-Yishai... but not by my own name?" [Midrash Tehillim 4]. This refers to a man, a king, but it teaches us the principle: a loss of one`s name is a disgrace...
Let us return to the golden path, at neither extreme. Let us continue the family tradition where every woman has a personal name, and let us return to the tradition where every family has only a single name.
A fundamental principle of Jewish leadership is intimated here for the first time: a leader does not need faith in himself, but he must have faith in the people he is to lead...I see a lot of cynical, elitist leaders who look down upon their flock. This, it seems to me, is a recipe for ineffectiveness and for errors in judgment on a myriad of issues: ineffectiveness in that their rebuke is often off target and usually dismissed as distant (i.e. from an outsider who doesn't understand), and leading to error in that they do not understand the mindset of those who will be effected by their halakhic rulings. This all just another poisonous effect of cynicism and failing to judge others favorably.
This is the critic as detached intellectual. The prophets of Israel were quite different. Their message, writes Johannes Lindblom, was “characterized by the principle of solidarity”. “They are rooted, for all their anger, in their own societies,” writes Walzer. Like the Shunamite woman (Kings 2 4:13), their home is “among their own people”. They speak, not from outside, but from within. That is what gives their words power. They identify with those to whom they speak. They share their history, their fate, their calling, their covenant. Hence the peculiar pathos of the prophetic calling. They are the voice of G-d to the people, but they are also the voice of the people to G-d. That, according to the sages, was what G-d was teaching Moses: What matters is not whether they believe in you, but whether you believe in them. Unless you believe in them, you cannot lead in the way a prophet must lead. You must identify with them and have faith in them, seeing not only their surface faults but also their underlying virtues. Otherwise, you will be no better than a detached intellectual – and that is the beginning of the end.
Torah, faith, religious learning on one side and madda, science, worldly knowledge on the other, together offer us a more overarching and truer vision than either one set alone. Each set gives one view of the Creator as well as of His creation, and the other a different perspective that may not agree at all with the first… Each alone is true, but only partially true; both together present the possibility of a larger truth.In the latest issue, Dr. Lamm's son-in-law, R. Mark Dratch, wrote a letter disagreeing with Avi Meir's understanding of this passage (link):
No, Dr. Lamm does not equate Torah knowledge with secular knowledge. Dr. Lamm, like Mr. Meir, sees all wisdom as a means to appreciating the “nifla’os haBorei, the wonders of the Creator.” And as for viewing madda “as a separate area of knowledge requiring synthesis,” we all make havdalah every Saturday night and declare “haMavdil bein kodesh l’chol”!To this, Mr. Meir responded:
As to what Dr. Lamm meant by this comment, Rabbi Mayer Schiller pointed out in his article “Torah Umadda and the Jewish Observer Critique: Towards a Clarification of the Issues” (Torah U-Madda Journal, vol. 6, 1995–96), that Dr. Lamm’s statement that each is only partially true “seems to run counter to many statements of [Ch]azal, who see all wisdom as being present in the Torah. Accordingly, although Dr. Lamm’s choice of words might be seen as lacking in traditional reverence, he was merely stating the truth as we perceive it… Thus, the phrase ‘partially true’ refers not to any (G-d forbid) falsity in the Torah, but to the fact that for the average man Torah truth is limited to what the texts themselves reveal” (p. 122).
Dr. Lamm’s words as they were originally written are quite clear and well understood. His view of Torah as “only partially true” has been reinterpreted and re-explained on numerous occasions and, quite frankly, these explanations do not coincide with the clear “authorial intent” of the words in context.
I have an incident I observed some years ago on December 25 that I want to share with you.
I was walking in Forest Hills, Queens, around 15 years ago on December 25, and I witnessed the following: A yeshiva boy of around 9 years old was walking home from school carrying his school books. A group of nearby boys were making fun of him, saying, "Ha Ha, you had to go to school today." The boy, without batting an eyelash, replied, "Ha ha, you didn't learn anything today."
Spouses during the Resurrection of the Dead(From the Rav Aviner Yahoo! Group: link)
Q: If someone was married to two different people during his or her lifetime who will they be with after the Resurrection of the Dead?
A: There is a responsum of a certain Rav in which there was a young woman who married a wonderful man who died relatively young. The young women did not want to marry again. She said, "Why should I get married to someone else? During the Resurrection of the Dead I will be married to my second husband, and my first husband is more dear to me than anything. I prefer to remain a widow all of my life and then be married to my true soul-mate." They asked the Rabbi: Who will be the true spouse – the first or the second? At first the Rabbi did not want to answer. He said that it is forbidden to answer a halachic question before someone who is greater than him in wisdom. Since this is a question of the Resurrection of the Dead, at that time there will be greater Rabbis than there are now, it is therefore forbidden for me to answer. If there are questions that arise now - what can we do? We have to answer them. Questions that have to do with the future, however, we leave for the greater Rabbis. Other Sages said that this is true, but this is all before the "Zohar" was revealed. After the "Zohar" was revealed, it contains the answer to our question. Regarding a Jewish servant, the verse says, "If he arrives by himself, he leaves by himself; if he is the husband of a woman, his wife leaves with him" (Shemot 21:3). This means that he enters the Resurrection of the Dead with his wife – his true wife. It can be the first spouse or the second spouse. It is the true spouse – the most successful marriage.